As I sat at the dining room table of a new mom friend’s house, three kids deep into parenting, I asked which curriculum she used to teach her kids to read. Her kids were older and always seemed to be carrying a book around, so whatever she was using seemed to have worked. She looked up sheepishly, took a moment to assess whether I was a safe person to share this information with - as if she was going to share a new angle on the death of Diana - and in whispered tones asked, “